When it comes to dating,
women often go against their better judgement and overlook quirky things men do
to cut them some slack. Although the women you're dating are trying their best
to see your better qualities, there are definitely near-universal red flags
they look for when sizing you up.
Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the
first date.
1. Constantly talking about your ex
Constantly talking about your ex with your dates can make a very bad first impression and run a
new woman off in a hurry! Your first conversation on a date with a new woman
should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially
not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about
their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness.
2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will skip over men in this situation because it's clear that these
guys don't like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious
commitment issues.
3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe--but they
don't want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to
or what to wear. Dating a guy with a
controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to run
from you very quickly.
4. Negativity
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves;
therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job,
your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to
improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current
circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women
you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.
5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turn-off because women want to be
valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships
can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life
unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions.
6. Bad-mouthing others
A woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on co-workers, family or friends,
or criticize those close to you. Not only that, but she will question your loyalty to her and begin
to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can really trust you.
7. Lack of ambition
Women
like to date men whom they can move forward with and see a bright future. They
don't want to be with men who have no ambition or drive, are stagnant and are
going nowhere fast. Women
want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable
lifestyle and
showing no signs of maturity can make a woman flee from you.
8. Lack of chivalry
Being a gentleman when you are on a date means
showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. We should
all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from
it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. While just about every
woman is enjoying the benefits that come with equality, at the end of the day,
she wants to be treated like a lady and if you can’t deliver, there’s a good chance
she won’t stick around for long.
9. Still living at home
Although
it may sound harsh, most women want to date men who have evolved enough to have
made it out of their parents house! Men who still live at home are usually in
no hurry to grow up, become independent or financially responsible. The only time it might be
acceptable for a man to still be living at home is if he has temporarily
fallen on hard times or is taking care of aging parents.
10. Moving too quickly
Moving too fast in a relationship is usually a sign that you're uncomfortable
being by yourself or you are looking for a woman to help solve your problems.
Talking about what your children will look like after the first date, asking
for intimacy or marriage too quickly or even spilling loads of very personal
information too quickly all point to desperation.
0 comments :
Post a Comment